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| 80% Recommended by our customers. Publisher: Harper Paperbacks Catalog: Book Release date: 1997-02-14 Media: Paperback Number of pages: 304 Ean: 9780060928179 Book Isbn: 0060928174  Tip: compare prices with similar booksAuthors:
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For the 70 percent of couples who have been affected by extramarital affairs, this is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship -- written by a nationally known therapist considered an expert on infidelity. When I was 15, I was raped. That was nothing compared to your affair. The rapist was a stranger; you, I thought, were my best friend. There is nothing quite like the pain and shock caused when a partner has been unfaithful. The hurt partner often experiences a profound loss of self-respect and falls into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. After the Affair is the first book to help readers survive this crisis. Written by a clinical psychologist who has been treating distressed couples for 22 years, it guides both hurt and unfaithful partners through the three stages of healing: Normalizing feelings, deciding whether to recommit and revitalizing the relationship. It provides proven, practical advice to help the couple change their behavior toward each other, cultivate trust and forgiveness and build a healthier, more conscious intimate partnership. |
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 Written on February 17, 2007 Summary: A must read...no matter what side your'e on My husband just ended an affair of over 15 months that started just months after our second child was born. My therapist as well as our marital counselor both recommended this book to us. It unlike many other self-help books about affairs walks you through what each person is thinking, feeling, etc. Even when I was at my angriest this book helped me see that he too was hurting and it helped me have some compassion for his recovery as well. I would definitely recommend this book for both partners as it truly does open your eyes to what the other person is going through...things that neither party can probably put into words. Written on November 12, 2006 Summary: no nonsense I was appalled to see how many copies of this book have been sold, and how many books there are dealing with this sad issue. Such a big problem, and it's so devestating that everyone who experiences it seems to feel desperate for an answer. This book is one of the best out there, and was recommended to me by our marriage counselor. It doesn't provide absolutes, 'must do' things, but it does provide very helpful insights into both the hurt partners point of view as well as the straying partners point of view, which is helpful when making the decision to stay or leave the relationship. I haven't run across another book that was so clearly written, and from two viewpoints. Ms. Spring certainly tried very hard to be unbiased, and for the most part succeeds. I would recommend this to anyone suffering this kind of anguish, as well as for their partner. Written on August 25, 2006 Summary: REALLY helped me by giving me validation When my husband had an affair with my best friend, my therapist recommended this book to me. It was VERY, VERY helpful. It really explains all the reasons people have affairs - the circumstances that can create them, what's missing inside you and in your relationship, etc. I cannot recommend it enough. It helped validate a lot of things for me and helped me gravitate back to good self-esteem. Get a copy for your spouse, too. Written on August 14, 2006 Summary: This book restored my sanity and saved our relationship! If you've been cheated on and are desperate for answers and understanding like I was, you need this book. After I found out about the affair, it was a nightmare. The anger was overwhelming to the point it consumed my every thought. We didn't know where to begin to start dealing with our own thoughts or with each other. This helped me understand more and guided us on how to talk in a constructive way so we could begin to heal. It's been five months and we're probably getting along better than ever. We chose to stay together and I'm not sure we would have succeeded without the help of this book and it's great advice. Good luck to you! Written on June 28, 2006 Summary: Excellent, insightful work as a psychologist, i have found this book to be a wonderful resource. i have used it with many patients who have been on the giving or receiving end of an affair and have also used it with patients who have a family history characterized by an affair. the book is great for getting both members of the couple to look at the ways in which they could do things differently in the relationship. it's unfortunate but true that an affair can often bring couples closer together. i certainly do not think that this is the way to get your partner's attention (!), but i do believe that relationships can survive an infidelity. this book provides hope and help for strengthening a marriage after an affair. one of the best parts of the book discusses the process of learning from the affair. this chapter includes a section on how our own family of origin issues can contribute to our tendencies to push others away, withdraw from others, or otherwise sabotage a relationship. for instance, dr. spring speaks of a situation in which a person never got to be a child and sought a lover to get in touch with that impulsive, childlike side of the personality. none of the tendencies that she describes are meant as excuses for behavior, though. rather, they are meant as potential reasons and points of consideration so that the individual may work toward preventing an affair. this section alone made the book worth reading for me, and i have used it with faithful couples who appear to be attempting to sabotage their relationship in some way. for those who say that this book blames the faithful partner, i remind you of what anais nin said: "we don't see things as they are, we see things as we are." while this book provides the faithful partner with points to ponder during the process of recovery, the message is not one of blaming that spouse for driving the unfaithful spouse to an affair. in my opinion, that is simply NOT possible. i can't MAKE my spouse have an affair any more than i can MAKE him stand on his head or eat asparagus! if it's not yours, don't own it. simply read the book, do some instrospecting, and work to make your love strong enough to withstand the trials and tribulations that characterize a relationship between two people who love each other deeply. |
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| Catalog | Book | Book | Book | Book | Book | Book |
| Release date | 1997-02-14 | 2005-02-01 | 2004-02-03 | 1998-05 | 2007-01-06 | 2000-05-16 |
| Media | Paperback | Paperback | Paperback | Paperback | Paperback | Paperback |
| Number of pages | 304 | 272 | 448 | 207 | 342 | 288 |
| Ean | 9780060928179 | 9780060009311 | 9780743225502 | 9781572240872 | 9781572308015 | 9780609805794 |
| Book Isbn | 0060928174 | 0060009314 | 0743225503 | 1572240873 | 157230801X | 0609805797 |
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